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September 27th, 2007 by Sean“How do you know it’s real?”

With perception abilities, like empathy (perceiving emotions), telepathy (perceiving thoughts), communicating with your subconscious (perceiving internal messages), or remote viewing (perceiving foreign locations) - the question almost always arises: How do you know what you’re perceiving is real?

How do you know you’re perceiving someone’s emotions correctly and not just making it up? Their thoughts? How do you know that when you communicate with your subconscious, that you’re actually accomplishing something? How do you know you’re actually perceiving something accurately?

For certain situations, it’s pretty easy to test. If you’re remote viewing a location, and you want to know how well you did, then go to the location and check it out. Or if your friend is trying to telepathically send you an image, then look at the image afterwards and see how close you got. Easy :-).

However, with a lot of “real world” applications, it becomes a lot harder. If I read someone’s emotions, how can I tell that I’m really doing it? If I’m reading a complete stranger, then it’s not like I’m going to ask them afterwards how close I got. Or even reading friends - it can be pretty awkward to approach them and ask, “are you feeling confusion over whether you should continue your relationship, or call it quits?” So how do I know that I’m reading someone accurately?

Or if I’m communicating with my subconscious… how can I honestly tell that what I’m receiving is accurate? How can I tell it isn’t just my imagination? I mean - it IS all in my head - by definition! A challenging situation.

The answer is: I don’t know, especially at first.

As a follow up question: if I don’t know whether I’m doing it correctly, how do I even know if I’m doing anything at all? Maybe I’m just psychotic? I mean… if I can’t know whether what I’m doing is real, then it’s pointless.

My response is: Well, that’s fair… at first. Keep your skepticism on high when you first start - I completely agree.

However :-). We can be smart about things. We can stay flexible, be skeptical, but still play along and see what happens. And that’s the attitude I encourage. Be skeptical - but don’t let that skepticism turn into cynicism. Keep trying new things, keep experimenting and having fun, keep doubting and questioning.

If you maintain this attitude of having an open, playful, and skeptical mind, then you will succeed. If you turn off your skepticism, then it’s possible that you will delude yourself at some point. So skepticism serves us well. If you turn off your open mindedness, then the skepticism will overtake you and you’ll develop cynicism. With this attitude, it’s very possible you’ll do something amazing, but completely ignore it. So open mindedness is very important too. Therefore, the goal is to maintain a healthy balance between the two extremes. The middle path.

Let me relate to you what has happened to me over the years. I first started getting into empathy and communicating with my subconscious back when I was 17 years old (I’m now 24). I can remember feeling unsure of whether it was working at all. I can remember specific situations where my subconscious told me something that wasn’t true, and I questioned if I was wasting my time completely. Did my subconscious actually not know? Or was it my fault - and I was bad at communicating? Or was I just crazy? I really didn’t know the answer.

I would go a few weeks, attempting to communicate, and eventually getting pissed and giving up for another few weeks. Then a day would come by where I would think out of the blue, “Man, I haven’t really tried talking to my subconscious in a while… I should really start doing that again.” So I would give it another shot. Over time, I gradually became more and more confident, and the messages started getting more and more clear. I’m at the point right now where I can clearly distinguish between my own thoughts, and the messages from my subconscious mind. I can easy dictate a conversation, with close to zero effort.

At this point, how do I know that it’s real? I just know. I’ve developed a feel for it. It’s sort of like asking a baseball player: how do you know when to swing the bat? Well… they just know. They don’t have a formula in their head… it’s a feeling they’ve developed over time. They know. The same is true for me at this point.

With the subconscious, my confidence slowly grew over time. However, with empathy, my confidence was pretty high at the beginning.

I believe that everyone is naturally empathetic, and it’s inside all of us… it’s just a matter of tapping into the right feeling, and then developing it to be more accurate and specific. Sort of like hearing. We all hear. But musicians will develop their hearing to the point of picking out certain notes and frequencies, different layers and instruments. We all have a natural empathetic sense - and if we exercise it, we can become much more accurate with it, extracting emotions and watching them interact with each other.

I’ve always been confident of my empathic ability, because I can just see it. I honestly can’t think of a time when I read a situation incorrectly. Like I said - with empathy, it’s something we all have. Even when I was bad at empathy, I still read things correctly - I just read them with less detail, and couldn’t piece it together as well.

How do I know when I read something if I’m correct? Well, I make predictions based on what I read. For example, if I read that a girl is starting to think sweet thoughts about me, then I will predict that she will attempt to ask me out on a date in the near future. However, if I read that she isn’t the sort of girl to ask a guy out on a date, then I will predict that she will have her friends ask me about her, so she can get a feel of the situation. And if I know that I’ll reject the idea of a date, then I can see how she’ll emotionally respond to this, and what her reaction will be. I can see that she will reason that we just need to spend some time together in social situations… so I can see that she will attempt to set up social situations where we hang out. And I can keep going further into the future, predicting my emotions, and sensing how she will react to them. I can make an entire timeline for the next couple months.

Now - I see all of this about a week before it even begins. How do I know how accurate my empathy is? I watch and see how accurate my predictions become. And if I have 100% accuracy, then I can be confident that my empathetic perception is real and accurate.

If I test my empathy with predictions every now and then, I can get a sense for how accurate it is. Then when I read a situation that I can’t test, I can still be confident that my empathetic perception is correct. I might not be able to test that specific situation, but why doubt it? I’ve proven myself credible. So I trust in my ability.

Overall, it can be a little hard to trust in these strange abilities at first. So don’t. Keep that skepticism high, but also keep an open mind. Over time, things will start to add up, and you’ll develop the confidence through seeing the results. It might not be 100% accurate, but if it’s accurate sometimes, and the accuracy keeps improving, and you can FEEL the improvement, then you’re on your way. Eventually you’ll reach a point where you can be confident in your abilities, because you’ve proven them to yourself. Until that time comes, have fun, and do your best :-).

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### 9 Responses to ““How do you know it’s real?””

1. zagreb86 Says:
   September 27th, 2007 at 3:52 pm

   Thanks Sean,
   this post answers the question
   I e-mailed you today. =)

   Chris

2. Myrmior Says:
   September 27th, 2007 at 10:56 pm

   I hate to say it, but I often become so bored with the predictability of a conversation or situation that is already scripted in my mind, that I find myself purposely eliciting responses in order to steer people in the direction of my choosing.

   I normally end up pushing buttons for my own amusement, and then calling people out when they feebly attempt to hide their true emotions or reactions. What never fails to entertain is the look that crosses people’s faces when you dictate back to them their exact thought process and exactly how they are feeling regardless of the face they have put on. It’s usually written in their eyes/body language.

   I am often angry with myself for taking advantage of others in this fashion. I never gain anything from it, though, except for a short detour away from boringsville…

3. Dash Says:
   September 29th, 2007 at 1:18 am

   wow myrmior.. i have something to say about that! but since you already know lets just drop the conversation

   .. i’ll be quiet… =|

4. ClearVision Says:
   September 29th, 2007 at 2:37 pm

   Real? How is any of this real? Reality ain’t real. What we’re doing is breaking the physical laws. I don’t know. No one can know. It’s just like memory - you can attempt to explain your experience, but you can’t really convey the experience 100% the way you felt it (unless, of course you use telepathy :p ).
   Reality… isn’t real. Real doesn’t exist, at least not in my mind. There’s just the present. There, unstable, constantly changing, going through an infinite number of possible states, then your mind choosing one.

5. bobelly Says:
   September 29th, 2007 at 2:49 pm

   if you believe in intention manifestation, isn’t it possible that by confidently “predicting” other people’s emotions/actions, you’re actually creating them (instead of truly predicting them)?

6. furanku Says:
   October 2nd, 2007 at 12:09 am

   Thanks Sean,
   your post pretty much says
   practice practice and… PRACTICE ^_^ you’ll get better.

7. Jusseppe Says:
   October 2nd, 2007 at 1:43 am

   With relation to Bobelly’s post, it is my belief (and just my belief) that intention manifestation doesn’t work in the same way when it involves other people and their own will. I think (as I wrote on a previous post) that every person’s will is like a physical force that can move situations and events, and so these events and situations go the way it’s easier for them to go to, like flowing water.
   But who knows! Maybe someone with more experience with intention manifestation would say something different!

8. DeathMinister Says:
   October 2nd, 2007 at 4:04 pm

   I think the relationship with interpretation of intention manifestation and interpretation of reality should be delved into a little more myself (bobelly’s post got my thought gears turning as well). I mean from the sounds of it, it’s like reality is a script that is read through over time and if we can access that we can go ahead and rewrite parts of the script. I should note though that I don’t have much experience personally in telepathy or intention manifestation. I’m just a lazy speculator

9. Antisankari Says:
   October 4th, 2007 at 6:06 pm

   What else could telekinesis be said to be other than intent manifestation?

   It can be measured that our brains aren’t sending any particles, rays, waves between itself and the target object. There is no material link
   that could be measured using tools of modern physics. + The energy output of our nervous system just doesn’t match up with the results seen in target object. There just isn’t enough energy to do what telekinesis does. So the phenomenon cant be about sending energy.

   And if our act of intention has no way of interacting with it’s target, then the act itself must cause the effects.

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